1 (14 oz) can sweetened condensed milk, chilled, plus enough regular milk to total 3 cups
3/4 tsp vanilla
1 lg box instant vanilla pudding mix (or 3/4 cup bulk instant vanilla pudding mix)
3 tbs butter
1 cup crushed graham crackers, divided
2 cups heavy whipping cream, divided
strawberries OR blueberries, optional

mix cold milk (including sweetened condensed milk) and vanilla together. gradually add pudding mix, stirring continually for 2 minutes; put in the refrigerator.

melt butter in a saucepan and add crushed graham crackers. stir over medium heat until lightly browned. remove from heat.

beat 1 cup heavy whipping cream until peaks form; fold together with 1/2 cup browned graham cracker crumbs and cooled pudding mixture. pour into a 2-qt serving dish. reserving 1 tablespoon crumbs, sprinkle remaining browned graham cracker crumbs over the pudding mixture; refrigerate.

before serving, beat the remaining 1 cup of whipping cream and spread over the chilled mixture, making peaks with the whipped cream. sprinkle reserved crumbs over the top to decorate. serve immediately if possible; refrigerator leftovers.

optional: serve with sweetened strawberries or blueberries.

BANANA PUDDING: fold 2 sliced bananas into pudding mixture before pouring into serving dish.